How I'd love to live...

People are never honest about their intentions. And when they are, we never believe them. Pointing back to the ones who were not honest. There are too many walls and past relationship hang ups to get over. You are never really sure if you were settled for or are first choice. And when you figure you don't care, you are never sure how the other person feels about you. Or it's the other way around. Jealousy and possessiveness suck. All around. Don't do it, it drives people away. Don't start something you aren't prepared to follow through on, folks. It hurts. Walls are great to bring down, but not as a challenge to an ego. The wall is there for a reason. Respect it and be in awe that it came down for you. Word.

Learn to trust as hard as that sounds. Try not to judge based on your past experiences. Make that wall a little shorter. No one likes to climb that high. Don't be afraid of what might climb over. Remember your friends. Boyfriends and girlfriends even husbands and wives come and go (hopefully not the husbands and wives) but your friends, like your family, will always be there. Do the little things. The phone calls are neat. Everyone likes them. Emails too. Don't be afraid to speak your mind. No one has to be 100% alike to be compatible. And it's much more fun not to be. Spend time with your friends, have a hobby. It's okay. It'll give you that much more to talk about when you do hang out. Introduce each other to your friends. You don't have to want to hang out all the time. It's good to take a break. That way you won't get bored with each other. As if that would be the case.... Accept that you probably won't change the person you are dating. And that the person you met, is probably not 100% the real them, so allow room to accept them even more as they really are. Be yourself always. Be silly. Be stupid. No matter how old you are, cause it's fun. And have fun. Send each other comments on Myspace. Yes, I just referenced Myspace as a dating aid. So what? Don't over analyze where you are at any point in the relationship. Try not to think too much about the meaning of anything the other person said. It was probably not as heavy as you though it was when you heard it the first time. Ask questions. Find out more about them. Show interest. Talk. More. Fall into the physical attraction. It's okay. Age should not be a factor, but if I hear one more person say it isn't anything but a number, I will get violent. It's not JUST a number, it's much more. It's a level of maturity and personal growth. It matters. But only if you let it. Don't say things you don't really mean, are not sure of or can't back up. But if you mean it, please say it. A lot. And for no reason. And please, don't hold out on calling to see if the other person will call. Does it matter really? Just do it if you want to. Do what you say you will do and call when you say you will call. If you can't talk, find a way to let them know you remembered.

Don't always go to the movies. Take walks. Go on short trips. Cook. Together. In the kitchen. Rent movies and talk through them about the movie. Mini golf is only fun if you are doing it together. Listen to music. Take pictures. Get pictures of you two together. Memories are best illustrated with photos. Lots of them. Make out. It's great. Use your hands. Touch. Everywhere. And feel it, don't just touch to be touching. Feel the other person under your fingertips. It's okay to just lay or sit in each other's arms quietly. It's better to admit what you are thinking about is them. Or even if you are thinking about the million and one uses of duct tape as applied to the bedroom. Never be annoyed at the question. Be annoyed if there isn't one. You don't always have to go somewhere. Enjoy each other's company. Sex is great, but try to see what you can do other than that, because if there isn't anything outside of that, there won't be anything later on.

When it's over. Let it be over. It will hurt. A lot. But it's better to have had that experience than not to have had it at all. Even though you want it to never end. Remember that people come into your life for a reason. Sometimes not to stay. And that's really okay. It's okay to cry. In front of your friends. They care about you and will always be there for you. They will be there to help you pick up the pieces of your heart and put that wall back in place.

Remember the cool stuff about meeting someone new. Try not to look for it. It will find you.